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Walking the Walk: Why Was It So Life Changing?

For the past six weeks, each Thursday (in honor of #TBT, “Throw Back Thursday),  I’ve been sharing blog posts that I wrote back in 2013 regarding everything I learned on my week long trip along Spain’s El Camino de Santiago during Spring Break (Semana Santa) 2013.

 In Part 1 of the series, I hinted on the fact that it had been a life changing experience. Today I’d like to explain just why that was. I wrote those posts when I was going through a particularly difficult time in life and in order to get through it I did what I’ve always done during moments of emotional turmoil: I turned to writing to help me to make sense of things. By reflecting on my experience on “El Camino” through my writing, I was able to recall some of the important lessons I learned along that weeklong journey and this ultimately helped me to continue on through the darkness until I arrived at the end of that particular emotional journey:     Continue reading


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Living a Story Worth Telling

One of the coolest things about therapy is that it offers the chance for us mental health professionals to help clients rewrite their own stories. Sometimes this is done by looking back at their past and reframing the way in which they view a big life event. Or transforming a current crisis into the turning point in their life story. Instead of a victim they’re suddenly the author of their very own journey. By viewing tragedy, pain,  and disappointment as moments in the stories of our lives, we realize that just as in any good story, these experiences are not going to endure until the end of the book. What more, since we ourselves are the AUTHORS of these stories, we get to determine which direction the story will go when we bump into the unexpected twists and turns. What sort of ending do we want to arrive at when we close the book?

In yesterday’s blog post, I touched on how fragile life is and how tragic deaths can shake us up, doubting everything we once believed and causing us to question the very foundations of who we are. I don’t have any answers as to why life is full of tragedy, but the fact that it is, is undeniable. However, we do have the chance to choose how we respond in the face of the inevitable curve balls that life throws our way. And when this surprising and shocking news is that of someone’s passing, I think we can use it as a chance to ask ourselves, “how do I want to LIVE?”

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